Why do people fall in love with married men?
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Often the world around us cruelly condemns girls who are inattentive and fall in love with men who already have legal life partners. What words do not provoke and what conspiracies are not built against them? But has anyone seriously thought about the question of why they fall in love with married men? What is this, a subconscious attraction or an ordinary selfish whim?
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Someone”s best
Oddly enough, but subconsciously, many girls recognize many girls as at least on one level more than their idols. Their subconscious is screaming at them about it. Someone had already “called” so much better than others that they were free.
In most cases, a man who is legally married or in a long-term stable relationship stands his ground. He already has everything he needs — a job and a successful career, a spouse and children, a favorite hobby. He has self-belief and self-confidence. And it is precisely this confidence that the girl in love with him conveys to him, attracting her to a dangerous relationship, like the flame of a burning candle.
It turns out to be a completely illogical paradox. On the one hand, married men still don’t trust them completely. On the other hand, his stable family life stimulates a certain degree of self-confidence.
The forbidden fruit is sweet
This expression has not yet been canceled — it has been known since childhood. I always want exactly what is strictly prohibited. And we”re not just talking about unnecessary chocolate or banned publications. This rule applies directly to prohibited relationships with married men.
The risk of being caught “in the most interesting places”, the risk of being recognized on the street or in a restaurant, haunts such relationships every minute. This leads to the release of huge amounts of adrenaline, which is then released in alarming quantities.
This is a kind of drug addiction when a girl simply cannot do without the risk of being caught by a stranger. Another type of pleasure, when a man is completely free, does not bring her the slightest pleasure.
Lack of paternal attention
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Scientists have long discovered a relationship between an insufficient amount of care and affection from the father and the desire of an adult girl to start a relationship with a married man. In such cases, the companion simply reminds her of her father. So what should you do here? In most cases, the experienced (and often gray-haired) elders and sages are already married.
Young women, frustrated by their own life experiences, simply do not know how to build and develop relationships. This is a very comfortable place for experienced men who are like their fathers.
In addition to the fact that such a companion already has the necessary experience, he is brave and knows how to please a girl, he has another undeniable advantage. In addition to the desire and ability to look after beautifully, an elderly man who was able to earn his own capital has such opportunities.
How can I tell if a married man loves me?
At the same time, legally married, inexperienced girls are perceived as signs of his ideal of adult male conflict-free behavior. Each of them sincerely believes that the moment will come when he will leave his family and remain with her forever. That, according to psychoanalysts, such a miracle can only happen in the first half of an illicit relationship. Now maximum for the first year. In addition, the man stabilizes the situation and separates the non-hymatic connection into another independent niche between work and home.
Thus, it standardizes the relationship, they take their position and become normal. A man cannot and does not want to change this. His lover faces a difficult choice: leave him now or remain in the background. The second solution can be dangerous because such painful love remains forever and destroys the girl’s best years.
The same psychoanalyst says that relationships with married men need to be stopped by nipping them in the bud.
They have 100% continuity, especially since there is no happy family future. And here the reason why they fall in love with a married man is not important. The main thing is the result and aftertaste.
It is the latter in such relationships that, as a rule, turn out to be long and very memorable. Remember only pain, mutual insults and disappointments.
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