A highly controversial issue: is masturbation possible with a regular partner?
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Is masturbation safe for couples? This question interests many people, especially women. Sex therapists often deal with women who are confused when they learn that their man masturbates.
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In some cases, men themselves say this. In other cases, a woman asks a direct question, to which the man replies, “I don”t like masturbation. So what?” [1]. Sometimes women find lubricant in the wrong place or socks with dried sperm.
Out of respect, men may encounter similar problems. They panic when they discover a small pink vibrator in their husband”s secret drawer. “Does she really not like me?” This thought haunts them.
Three Campuses of Opinion
There are three opinions on this issue among both sexes:
- Masturbation is beneficial for single people. But in a partnered relationship, the sexual needs of both parties must be met. And masturbation becomes unnecessary.
- Manual masturbation is tantamount to cheating. After marriage, the only acceptable form of sex is intimate contact between partners. Anything else is hypocritical and vulgar.
- Pornography is disgusting. Masturbating while watching pornography is even more disgusting. It”s practically impossible to continue a relationship with a partner after learning this about them.
No matter what those who have lured their partners into the grave sin of masturbation say, one thing can be said: What is it really? Is masturbation acceptable in a relationship? Or not?
Sexologists consider masturbation a form of basic human sexuality. Even infants engage in self-exploration and find pleasure in touching their genitals. In most cases, people continue to do this throughout their lives. Of course, sex with a partner brings immense pleasure. But why deny yourself additional opportunities for pleasure?
Both masturbation and sex with a partner are two forms of the same process. However, they are different from each other. As for solo sex, here you can only please yourself. In intimate partnerships, you need to please the other person. There are also many nuances here regarding this aspect of our sexuality. You need to discuss with your partner the frequency of intimacy, features of foreplay and positions, etc. When it comes to feeling, everything is much simpler here.
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For decades, the topic of masturbation was considered taboo. People believed that masturbation contributed to blindness, fatigue, and communicable diseases.
Some people are convinced that couples can satisfy all of each other”s sexual needs. However, some needs may be missed, even if the partners are experienced lovers. Most people, both men and women, need the ability to satisfy their own sexual needs.
American study. How many men are not averse to masturbation?
By the way, scientists believe that men masturbate more often than women. Researchers from Indiana University studied 5, 865 Americans (2, 936 men and 2, 924 women) aged 14 to 94 years. This is the statistical proportion of masturbators at different ages.
The number of men who masturbated at least once in the previous month was as follows:
- 14-15 year olds: 43%.
- 16-17 year olds: 58%.
- 18-19 years old: 61%.
- 20-24 years: 63%.
- 25-29 years old: 69%.
- 30-39 years old: 66%.
Thus, more than half of the men aged 16-59 surveyed admitted that they masturbate at least once a month. Scientists suggest that the real frequency may be higher.
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Data from Women Surveyed
But what are the statistics among women:
- 14-15 years old: 24%.
- 16-17 years old: 26%.
- 18-19 years old: 26%.
- 20-24 years: 44%.
- 25-29 years old: 52%.
- 30-39 years old: 39%.
- 40-49 years old: 39%.
- 50-59 years old: 28%.
- 60-69 years old: 22%.
- 70+ years: 12%.
Again, the true state of affairs will most likely differ somewhat from the officially received data. Moreover, scientists suggest that girls may deliberately distort information. After all, few women can say that they masturbate five times a day, which is a very rare occurrence in the male sex industry, and one of the most common reasons for this is that girls do not masturbate.
However, these results are consistent with other studies that also note a higher prevalence of masturbation among men.
Indeed, sexual desire is stimulated with the help of male sex hormones — testosterone in men and androgens in women. This explains the longer lasting sexual desire, which makes people satisfy themselves more often.
A Little About Pornography
Typically, watching exciting videos is frowned upon more by women. Men are clearly more likely to view pornography. The problem is that for representatives of the stronger sex, sexual fantasies are the basis of arousal. Exciting images sooner or later become outdated, and men are looking for something new.
However, understanding this fact does not bring much satisfaction to women who feel a lack of sex due to their partner”s commitment to pornography. Sometimes such couples reach a breakdown.
Not surprising — after all, sex is important to the fairer sex. Therefore, the researchers draw one conclusion. Negotiate with each other, find convenient compromises and take into account the needs of each partner.
