What and where to tie for bondage sex
Until recently, the BDSM element in sex was new and unusual, and not everyone dared to practice it, but with the advent of popular works on this topic and the spread of pornography, the BDSM element has become very popular.
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Nowadays it is rare to find a couple who did not at least blindfold each other and did not use spankings during sex, but these were originally BDSM attributes.
Whether such distribution is good or bad is a moot point. The fact is that more and more people are interested in being discreet, for example, during sex. And your audience”s needs must be met, right? So, how to get closer to your partner during sex without him getting closer to you!
Preliminary arrangements
Despite the huge prevalence of BDSM elements that are specifically “vanilla” (i. e. the normal gender of the couple is not determined by the BDSM theme), these elements still pose a certain risk.
Bound partners allow themselves to become immobilized. In many cases, you allow yourself to be blindfolded. This allows him to offer himself to the power of his partner. Therefore, it is important to discuss all issues in advance. It is important to make sure that your partner is not afraid of a broken boundary in the process.
What is worth doing and what you need to know before introducing an element of constraint and fixation into your sex life in general:
- Typically, partners need to talk to each other about what they want. For inspiration, watch related pornography and tell each other what you want to bring to your sex life from now on.
- Agree on safe words and stop tests, especially if you play games where words like “no”, “no”, “stop” and “don”t touch me there” are part of the script.
The safe word should be non-standard so that no one accidentally says it in a sexual context, but at the same time simple, because on adrenaline you are overcome with sexual arousal and the tied partner may accidentally forget it. This can be done. For example, this could be the name of a fruit.
If a partner uses a gag, duct tape, or other device, the person must agree to a stop test because they cannot speak. For example, two fingers lift or touch a nearby surface.
Theoretically, this is, of course, problematic, but still, just in case, the safe word should be used without hesitation, especially since it is accompanied by physical discomfort, especially irritating numbness, especially in relation to communication).
The top partner must listen to the stop one by one. If the top one does not obey, this is a serious reason to leave him. Because this is a direct violation of the contract and a breach of trust.
- Don”t get caught up in the concepts of “dominant” and “submissive”. First, just because you”re just introducing BDSM elements into your sex life doesn”t mean you need to dive deep into the topic. Why don”t each partner try the role of the Messenger? What if you like it?
Where to start?
In general, gender relations are very diverse. Even a simple “pushing your partner’s hand into the bed during a kiss” is already a mandatory element of fixation.
Read also: BDSM sex and bondage positions worth trying
Have you always wanted to try something BDSM, but are afraid and don”t know where to start? Yes, and accessories from a sex shop are expensive anyway. It”s not.
What else could it be?
- Handcuffs. Options are steel, can be leather or fabric, ties can be used as handcuffs. Nylon stockings are not recommended. This is because they stretch easily and can be difficult to untie.
- Special fastening devices from sex shops or theme stores. These include spacers, various handcuffs — regular leather ones, or those that can be attached to doors.
- Duct tape — often placed on wrists, ankles, and often the mouth.
- And, of course, ropes that can connect partners in the most bizarre positions.
And here, read very carefully.
Rope is a tool for professionals. Ropes are literally dangerous. Seriously. It may cause friction burns. Ropes may be tied in positions that impair circulation in certain parts of the body. Or seizures.
In particularly severe cases, a person may even begin to choke. In milder cases, rope is more difficult to untie than other devices, especially if the person doing the tying is inexperienced.
Girl tying guide
What should I take instead of rope? The main rule when choosing a tying device: it should be easy and quick to remove. Velcro tape is suitable for devices with clips that can be released by movement.
This will make the nidginny feel safer and will make it possible to quickly and easily offer him help if the upper one becomes uncomfortable, scared or in pain.
Problems can arise at any time. At best, at worst, the lower layer experiences psychological discomfort. In this case, it is necessary to untangle it immediately. To do this, you need a device that can do this easily and quickly.
Special devices specifically designed for such games — handcuffs, handcuffs — are ideal. However, if you don”t want to spend money on this, you can use ties or find bands with Velcro or clips (which can be some kind of clothing item).
Before using the device specifically in a sexual context, it is recommended to test it yourself to understand what it feels like, practice it right away and perform it as quickly and easily as possible.
Safety precautions
The basic rules have already been stated above. If there is no experience at the top or at least master classes, then there is no rope. In addition to this:
- Bonding devices — for easy removal.
- Carefully monitor the reactions of the relevant partners and observe the “stop and stop” rules.
- Keep scissors on hand in case you use a device made from scrap materials (stockings, ties). It is better to use scissors safely due to the risk of injury to your partner under the influence of adrenaline and sexual arousal.
- Keep sedatives, cooling ointments, iodine, bandages on hand in case of injury, and any specific medications the bottom may need.
- Do not tie your wrists or ankles. There are blood vessels that can be easily pinched. It is better to tie them above the wrists and ankles.
Bondage positions
- Handcuffs Place your arms above your head while lying on the bed.
- The Crab Position: The bottom sits on the floor or bed with their knees bent. The top presses their bottom forearms to their calves and ties their hands to their legs with Velcro or a silk scarf. This position is suitable for fellatio, cunnilingus, and deep penetration.
- Tie the bottom to a chair (with a back and armrests). You can tie just the hands or the hands, knees, and ankles. This way, you can tie the man up, straddle him, or force the woman to perform cunnilingus.
- The easiest way to do this is to place the bottom on the bed, tie their ankles and wrists together, and raise their arms above their head, spreading them apart.
And, of course, let your imagination run wild! Play with bondage for fun, role reversal, teasing orgasm control, using adult toys, dirty talk, blindfolds, gagging—just have fun!
