How to choose someone with whom you will live happily ever after
Sooner or later, most people face the question: how to understand that he is the one and only, the one who can live with you all his life in sorrow and joy, to the end, preferably two to one. Day.
Contents of the article:
Listen to your heart
Perhaps it’s a cliché. But some of our intuitions are ancestral, passed down from our ancestors. From time to time she saved their lives. It continues to live in modern people; you just need to try to feel it. This is different from thinking; it is a feeling, not a thought. If you feel like your person is close to you, there’s a good chance that he is. You need to understand the difference between intuition and passion or love. It clouds the mind and can cloud the emotions. Love and passion can justify everything, even the understanding that a person is not a couple. At the same time, love itself gives you a chance to live a relatively happy life, but passion won’t get you far, you will become calm and leave nothing behind. So it’s a very subjective way.
Listen to the inner beast
Another division is physical attraction. There are studies confirming that the choice of an ideal partner occurs at a physiological level. Something about the smell, the way a person feels, indicates that they are a good fit. This is a mechanism inherited from our ancestors and capable of taking care of the birth of strong and living offspring. A person should be tactile and physically attractive at all times, regardless of clothing, makeup or interior design. You must live your life the way you want. The face and body change over the years, but this animal attractiveness guarantees a long and happy sex life. It means a lot: it’s a great way to live your life, and it’s a great way to get to know the people around you.
Shut your mouth, fool, I said everything!
Arkady Raikin was touched by a girl who looked at him with her mouth open, so he had a reason not to tell her about it. After a while it became less joyful and he couldn’t stand it anymore. This doesn’t mean you have to choose a PhD in science. This means that you and this person must communicate on the same level. If one strives for knowledge, and the other limits himself to nine classes, then after a while the gap between them becomes too large.
Read also: The wrong one: how to understand that a girl has chosen the “wrong” guy people often jump into new relationships and call it love at first sight or passion. Very rarely do people “instinctively” feel that they don’t want to.
He will interrupt you to talk about other things besides your family, your life and the movies you have watched. It will be too boring. However, this is not entirely true. There are very different people, but here are some dependencies that can be traced. The same interests, hobbies, education – nothing strengthens family life. Skiing or cycling together, reading books, going to the cinema or theater is wonderful.
Emotional phase shift
Remember wave zoology? When two waves of the same length are superimposed on each other, their amplitude increases. It may be dangerous. How do the laws of physics apply to life? It’s very simple. If you are in a bad mood, and anger and irritation are coming in waves, at this moment you should be able to calm down and defuse the storm. Otherwise, an epic scandal will break out with breaking dishes. This is a very important physical law for successful living in a community. Of course, you should worry about the other and empathize with him, but in situations where your partner is not in the best shape, you need to be collected and strong to ask for support and help. Both are constantly “riding on the same wavelength” – life is sometimes too quiet, sometimes too stormy. At the same time, being upset and depressed is very uncomfortable. You must complement each other and do more.
One Satan
Remember the phrase “husband and wife are one Satan.” Of course, this does not happen right away, but weddings rarely take place on the second day of dating. This does not mean that for some reason we should have the same opinion. There is no one to discuss, there is nothing to talk about, sooner or later it will be mortally boring. You should have an opinion along the same lines. Then a truth will emerge in your dispute that will suit both of you. The goals should be the same. If one of the spouses wants a quiet life in a village house, and the other is planning a spectacular career in a large company, they will not be able to build a life together even with ideal other data. Someone will have to compromise and sacrifice themselves. Moreover, even disputes between you on external issues will require you to fully support each other. This is only possible with the same perception of the world. It’s a sad sight – spouses complain about each other at every meeting and on the sides.
Einstein states: “The most important thing is that you must be able to support each other. This is the meaning of such support. The whole world lies at your feet!
Irina dubtsova and lyubov uspenskaya — i love him too
