Nonconcordance—When the Body Disagrees with the Mind
The sexual sphere is full of phenomena and contradictions. How could we do without them? Otherwise, sex wouldn’t be such a captivating adventure and would arouse scientific and research interest among scientists and lovers. One such phenomenon is incompatibility. This term is unfamiliar to many, but the meaning it conveys is very familiar.
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This is a relatively new term, discovered by scientists 30 years ago. Nonconcordance is the presence of genital reactions in the absence of a real desire for sex. This phenomenon is often observed in women, and many of them confirm that this situation has occurred at least once. When the body reacts to “betrayal,” genital lubrication is a response to some sexual stimulus, not desire in women. This is a non-synthetic oil. The opposite situation is when a woman is ready to receive a partner, but her vulva is completely dry. This is also an incompatibility. An incompatibility between subjective desire and genital response.
It’s a matter of physiology
That’s exactly it. Remember that sexual satisfaction is at a certain level of human needs, along with food, nutrition, and sleep. And the body knows this perfectly well. Therefore, the slightest sexual impulse is accompanied by a genital response, that is, the release of lubrication. Pornographic images, naked men, and other erotic stimuli cause arousal.
However, as a higher sentient being, humans can distinguish between all external stimuli. I like one thing and not another. It is precisely subjective sensations, their own perception of the world around them, that evoke feelings of desire and arousal. However, there are areas in the brain that are responsible for unconscious reactions. The response regarding the genitals can be seen as such an unconscious reaction to any sexual trigger.
Take, for example, watching a pornographic video. For example, especially rough scenes with violence or hard sex. When you look at a woman, lubricant is released. However, not all women receive true satisfaction and sexual desire when watching videos of such content. This does not mean that women like rough treatment in bed. No, many women don’t like it and are disgusted by it. And the liquid released during viewing does not imply a momentary desire to repeat after the actor. This is a genital response.
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a quiet life with a heartthrob is usually considered representative of the stronger sex. In the same way, he floats away, and the girl suffers. Sometimes it seems that in men.
Men and women
Unconventionality is not limited to women. This reaction also occurs in men, but much less frequently. The most striking example is morning erection.
Scientists identify several other conditions along with the discrepancy. Sexually relevant stimuli are external stimuli that evoke a genital response. And sexually attractive stimuli are those that evoke subjective sexual desire. Full combat readiness—the presence of desire and genital response—intersects with these phenomena. Sexual kinship intersects with female sexual desire in 10% of cases. This means that women don’t always want sex, even if their genitals are “cleaned” with juice. For men, the intercept is 50%. This means that in men, an erection much more often coincides with the subjective desire for copulation.
When the body fails
When it becomes a little clearer that the body’s reaction may not coincide with subjective sensations, it’s time to talk about the behavior of men and women in bed.
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And the woman, who finds no external confirmation of his words, becomes offended. In such situations, it’s worth remembering the phenomenon of discord. Perhaps this is a case of discord between body and mind. Don’t run away from your partner with tears or resentment. You need to reassure him, tell him that everything is fine. Carefully inquire about the cause of temporary embarrassment, for example, stress, strong emotions, or irrelevant irritants.
It’s worth helping the man relax (with a massage), eliminating external factors (dim the lights, turn off the music, change the environment), and devoting more time to caresses. Then the situation can be resolved in a way that benefits both parties.
A common situation for women is when there is lubrication but no desire. And a man who feels his partner’s wetness will not respect any word of refusal. In this case, it’s worth looking for other signs of arousal in the woman, namely rapid breathing and tension in the pelvic and buttock muscles. Of course, don’t ignore the woman’s words. You can also guide your partner in the desired direction as their lips and hands move through their body.
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