WOW: Interview with a couple living in an open relationship for 9 years
Open relationships cause an emotional storm among the public. Some find it terribly attractive and exciting, while others consider it perversion and disrespect for themselves and their partners. An interesting interview was published in Askmen. There, participants in such relationships shared their experiences of being in them.
Contents of the article:
How do people find such relationships?
Bill Jason said that he found love on a dating site created specifically for monogamous individuals. There he discovered a strange fact: in most open relationships, the woman is the initiator.
In one interview, an Ohio couple, James and Savannah, had been married for nine years. They also took part in the interview. Below are the responses recorded by the interviewer. Perhaps they are the exception to the rule, or active evidence that bringing other people into their relationship doesn’t mean the romance is dead—it’s just growing.
The emergence of a desire to have a monogamous relationship
- How did you meet them?
We met on the Internet when it wasn’t as cool and popular as it is today.
- Is this your first relationship in this format? Why did you start writing these novels?
For both of us, this is the first relationship in this format. And we like it. As you know, experiencing new sensations with your loved one cannot be described in words. We love the feelings we get when we are in an open relationship. So this idea seemed like trying something new to me.
- How did the conversation turn into an open relationship? Were you open from the start or was it an awkward conversation?
We discussed this topic at length before entering into a monogamous relationship. None of them were uncomfortable for us. It started with a discussion of sexual fantasies and then delved into a discussion of desire. We talked about bringing new partners into our lives—we both thought it was exciting and interesting. Eventually, they decided to take the chance and try a relationship with someone else.
Feelings of being in an open relationship
- You’ve been together for 17 years. Are you still happy with your life? How often do you need to “believe” in each other to want to share?
Read also: What percentage of people are in open relationships?
the results of two recent studies shocked me! Scientists in the US and Canada simultaneously came to the same conclusion! 20% of people, or at least 1 in 5, are in open relationships.
We communicate and talk about this constantly—almost every day. This is one of the many positive aspects that sets the pace. It’s important to note: we don’t always spend time with other partners. We prefer to spend more time as a couple, as a family, as a monogamous couple.
Are there rules?
- Do you place demands on each other?
We’re proud that we lack many rules because we’ve talked to other couples, and they just suck. It limits our sense of freedom in such relationships. This freedom is a great motivator for us and plays a crucial role in successful and open relationships. There are two rules: being honest and communicating with each other conscientiously. As long as we observe these, we feel great.
Yes, we talk to each other as much as people want to hear. This means talking openly about things, without fear of being judged or keeping secrets from each other.
Open relationships and jealousy
- Have you ever felt jealous? How do you deal with it?
People in open relationships | awkward questions
Can you describe a specific incident when someone became overly emotional or jealous? Why did this happen? How did you cope?
I remember an incident when James had the opportunity to have fun with a woman one evening. We usually plan meetings with other people in advance to ensure everyone is comfortable and there are no unpleasant surprises. At the last minute, my husband decided to go on a date, and I was furious. I let him go, but I was overwhelmed with resentment and jealousy.
When James returned, we discussed it and tried to come to a mutual solution. This was great because we were very proud of our ability to solve problems.
The role of children and the future
- How do children feel about this kind of relationship? Do they know? How do you find time for them?
For us, children come first. No, they don’t know. The process of being with other people can be difficult, but we try to coordinate everything in a way that works for us. If we plan a family movie trip, we never cancel it because of a date with another person.
- What do you think the future holds for this couple?
It’s hard to say what will happen next – we have no foresight. But one thing we know for sure is that we adore each other. Perhaps this is because we could be sure that we could not find a better partner.
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